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When your child is a Meth addict
Kathy as
cmom |
When your child is a meth addict
There are no words to perfectly describe the
feelings a parent has when their child is addicted to drugs. It
doesn't matter if the child is a minor or an adult. During my 7
year experience with my daughter I must admit I have felt all
the following emotions:
Shock, hurt, fear, hopelessness, shame, anger, depression, hope,
happiness, disgust, attacked emotionally, verbally and
physically, detached, attached, loneliness, desperation, feeling
as if nobody understands, clingy, letting to, holding on,
confused, hatred at this drug, mood swings, crying spells,
heartache, love, protection, secretive, grief and a sadness in
my heart that only loving an addict can bring.
As loved ones, we allow all these feelings only to realize we
can't fix our addict. We want to protect and nurture only to
find out we are enabling. As we are doing these things we
justify it by saying we are doing it out of love only to look
back years later and realize it is harder to let go than it is
to hold on. How many times have I let go? So many I can't count.
To this day I can still feel my daughters pain. As she sits in
jail right now my heart is heavy but I am at peace. Isn't that
what parents are supposed to do? Not in the case of this drug we
call meth and meth addiction. I must say there is no right and
wrong and each person's situation is different. What works for
one may not work for another.
For TODAY, I choose to love my daughter from afar. Should she
choose to get clean and stay clean, I will be there for her. For
today, I cannot accept her collect calls anymore nor can I
subject my innocent granddaughter to the neglect my daughter's
addiction has caused.
For those of you who are new to KCI, welcome. Whether it is your
child, spouse, brother, sister or any other family member,
loving an addict is like the scariest rollercoaster ride you
have ever been on. Hold on tight. Or better yet, don't get on. |
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Gramto
two |
Re: When your child is a meth addict
My Dear Friend, Kathy
TRUER WORDS WERE NEVER SPOKEN!!
You and I are the light at the end of the tunnel for two
precious, endearing little girls.............and don't you ever forget
it!!
Hang tough Mom, we're gonna make it |
| pcejp |
Re: When your child is a meth addict
I couldn't have described the feelings of a parent
any better than you just did. The isolation I felt from everyone
was so incredible.
My 17 year old daughter just celebrated one year of being meth
free. Even after a year of her sobriety I look back to the past
and can't believe what meth has done to our lives and how it has
changed our entire family. |
Time4
Change |
Re: When your child is a meth addict
Kathy
I read your post often but don't reply much because I just don't
know what to say.
I'm sorry. I wish I could help ease your pain but I can't. My
children are small and I hope and pray that in the next 10 years
that meth is a thing of the past. I can't relate with your pain
but in my fear I imagine it and it scares the hell out of me.
I want you to know that I'm thinking of you and praying for you,
your daughter and granddaughter. |
mtgl
7771 |
Re: When your child is a meth addict
Can I ask you a question. I just spent a weekend in
rehab supporting my husband (meth/crack cocaine). Has lots of
education on addicts and the way addiction works. Me and my
husband have decided that not only will we sit down with our
children and educate them on this (my husband comes from a long
line of addicts and I have several in the family that are
addicts) but that we will start early to hope to prevent what
might be inevitable. I know I can never stop nor start my
children (15 & 17 yrs of age) from trying and cont. drugs. But I
am hopeing with this education on addiction and for sure having
boundries and consequences early I may help save one or both of
their lives. If you had all the knowledge you have now would you
have done things differently? |
Kathy as
cmom |
Re: When your child is a meth addict
You can always look back and see where you could do
things differently. I think it is an awesome idea to start
educating your kids early. The fact that your husband is willing
to use himself as an example is good. My daughter didnt really
get into drugs until she was 19. I have a son who just turned 30
(daughter is 26) and he has never touched a drug in his life.
They were both raised by me. Their dad is an alcoholic and I
told both of them growing up that they had an increased chance
of becoming adddicted to something since it ran in our family so
the best thing to do is to obstain from even trying. The only
difference I can pinpoint in my children's lives are that my son
got involved in sports at an early age and continued through
high school graduation. He had a male role model through his
couches and mentoring through them. It also required a great
amount of discipline to stay on the team. My daughter could
never find her "thing" although she tried several different
extra curricular activities. I believe the more activities your
children can get involved in the greater chance of creating
higher self esteem and at the same time diverts their idle time
to productive time. Just advice from another mother. Hey, good
luck to your family! |
Terry
Ca |
Re: When your child is a meth addict
Good post, I think as a mother of an addict it's hard for people
to understand the position. It's not all cut and dry just like
an addict's life is a daily roller coaster ride.
An analogy probably wierd but here goes: we nourish our children
like growing a tree. We plant it. Water, feed it, stake it up
and it may still get infested with insects or diseased. We might
be able to treat it, or it gets difformaties in the plant or
even dies. We just hope that after all the care it'll make it. |
mom
marie |
Re: When your child is a meth addict
Thank you for putting your thoughts in to words. I
admire your strength and understand your sorrow all to well. |
See also:
Being a Parent of a
Crystal Meth Addict
How to keep your kids from becoming addicts
Loved ones of an addict, which one are you?
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